Touch your pain without getting stuck in overwhelm or terror

Trauma Therapy

By coming into deeper relationship with yourself, I help you fulfill your longings for a lasting experience of belonging, connection, and self-trust.

So that pain can be less painful.

How is this possible?

Your brain can unlearn painful (untrue) things you learned from hard experiences (like, I’m all alone, I’m unworthy, I’m bad) - if you come closer to your pain with “I’m here with you” loving energy.

It’s okay if your pain scares you or you want to run away from it. Or if you think you’ll get overwhelmed and stuck in it. Or if compassion and connection with yourself feels impossible.

I shape the therapeutic space so that we meet you exactly where you are - so respectfully and kindly - that going closer to the pain begins to feel okay. I also won’t leave you alone in pain. I’ll ground us in the here and now. I’ll help you understand your pain and how your system protects you from pain, in a way that deepens self-trust and compassion.

We’ll grow your capacity to touch your pain without getting stuck in overwhelm or terror. When we do that, your pain can transform into true inner belonging. Then, your brain can finally take in new learning and actually believe something else to be true about you or your life. This frees up space for peace and presence in your life and relationships.

“I never knew grief work could be pleasurable” - Client

    • trauma - racial, sexual, physical, relational, intergenerational, ancestral, systemic

    • shock - single or chronic experiences of life or death situations, terror, horror, abandonment, aloneness, invasion, rejection, humiliation

    • stuck states - anxiety, depression, dissociation, stress, panic, rage/anger, hypervigilance, irritability, shame, self-criticism, overwhelm, burnout, hopelessness

    • behavioral - emotional reactivity, addiction, perfectionism, OCD, tics

    • relational challenges - codependency, conflicts, boundaries, attachment issues

    • life changes - relocation, children, divorce

    • grief and loss - death, personal, collective

    • identity exploration and challenges - sexuality, gender, race, culture, BDSM / Kink, consensual nonmonogamy / polyamory

    • lived experiences: chronic illness, disability, neurodivergence

  • I offer an integrative, experiential, decólônial, brain-based method of trauma therapy that includes parts work and somatics.

    I’m certified in the STAIR Method and trained in Deep Brain Reorienting to support trauma recovery including attachment wounds, shock, and complex trauma.

  • Primarily zoom sessions.

    During the first two weeks of the month: We’ll meet for a 90 minute session for 2 consecutive weeks. Each 90 minute session is $600.

    During the next two weeks of the month: Time off from sessions. I encourage developing skills and internal/external resources outside of therapy. I’ll support you in developing skills that target lasting change and deeper relationship with yourself. No fee here. 

    I offer this structure of therapy that supports brain healing and change.

    I don’t take insurance but provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement.

    Please ask about sliding scale if you need it.

I see clients for 90 mins. See what clients are saying:

  • The journey of therapy with Bokie has been life-changing in ways I never thought possible.

    My connection and relationship with my innermost feelings and trauma are starting to heal and transform, thanks to our extended sessions.

    The spaciousness of longer sessions allows my system to not feel anxious about "getting through all the things."

    I can’t emphasize enough the difference this has made in helping me experience and recognize real "wins" for my innermost, wounded parts.

    I’m profoundly grateful for Bokie’s skill, dedication, and their collaborative, creative, compassionate, and grounded approach as a therapist.

  • I’m now a better therapist and friend. I take better care of myself. I feel like I came back to myself. 

    Through longer sessions, the amount of repair work I’ve done with myself hasn’t been achieved with any of the therapists I’ve worked with in the last 5 years.

    I don't know how I called myself an adult because I've never been emotionally regulated using any of the embodied skills I learned. 

    I was scared of doing longer sessions. I thought I’d be permanently sad forever. I’ve never been able to understand my deeper inner world. I’ve been afraid that it’ll swallow me whole.