Deepen therapeutic presence & unlock your creativity in the room with clients

We’ll unlearn blocks to deeper therapeutic presence by exploring our relationships to four realms that profoundly affect how we show up in our role as therapists.

The four realms are:

• Relationship with Power

  • How do you use and share power with clients? What have you learned about power? Do you ever go power-under or power-over with clients? What supports you in being power-with?

  • We are always in an up-power role as therapists, and we can make power-over moves, power-under moves, or power-with moves. Power-with moves supports us in living into our values and integrity, and sharing power with clients so that the work is co-created.

• Relationship with Of-courseness

  • How are you in relationship with reality as it is? How are clients showing up in coherent ways even when you don’t understand it yet?

  • Internal systems are always coherent even if we don’t understand how yet. When we get this deep in our cells, we can deepen into being clear, compassionate, and grounded with our clients.

• Relationship with Not-knowing

  • How okay are you with not knowing what’s happening in the room? How okay are you with not knowing where the work is going? How do you meet moments of not knowing?

  • Our relationship with not knowing affects how we make every intervention with clients.

• Relationship with Self

  • How aware are you of what’s happening inside as you’re sitting with clients? Are you in relationship with your inner stirrings while you’re with clients? How do you feel towards yourself moment to moment in the room?

  • Our relationship with ourselves affects how we make every intervention with clients.

When we take on the role of a therapist, we are either in conscious or unconscious relationship with all four of these things. This group aims to make our relationship to the four realms more conscious by looking at inner stirrings in our clinical work.

For example, let’s say a therapist is annoyed with their client for not accessing self-compassion. After the therapist looked within, they saw that their relationships with of-courseness, not-knowing, and self were activated and sticky. They were not seeing how coherent it was for the client to not experience self-compassion. They were scared of what would happen if the client could never access self-compassion. They were not in relationship with self with kindness or curiosity as they were feeling scared and annoyed. This complex inner experience was leading to the clinician dissociating during session when the client would struggle with self-compassion.

Once we’ve looked at the connection between our stirrings and the four realms, we’ll discover how we want to greet our stirrings with compassion and care, as a way to unlock more creativity in the room with clients.

I will also support you in developing new skills and practices that support self-trust, deeper presence, and creativity in your work. I use brain change science to train your subconscious mind in building new habits and desired behaviors.